Vaginal Dryness is a Reality of Many Women
So leading up to menopause, our female bodies start to shut down our reproductive system. The levels of hormones that run this system and its two major monthly events – ovulation and menstruation – are re-calibrated, as is testosterone. This has an impact on everything in a woman’s body from her brain, to her heart, metabolism, digestion, energy levels, mood, sex drive and even body temperature. Her skin, hair and bone density are also affected. Seriously when I say everything, I mean every single thing.
The time leading up to menopause is called peri-menopause and it can last up to 10 years. However, a woman is not said to be menopausal until she has gone a full 12 months without a single monthly period. For us black women, that happens at about 50 years of age (on average).
However there are other causes of vaginal dryness.
- A decrease in estrogen levels during breastfeeding can cause vaginal dryness.
- Frequent yeast infections are another cause of vaginal dryness. Our bodies have yeast in them at all times. Our digestive tract and our vaginas exist with a balance of good bacteria and yeast. A tip in the pH (acidity levels) or taking some antibiotics can result in an increased level of yeast. Typically this is easily treated. If you have more than 2 yeast infections in a year, you should get a doctor to check you and figure out what is happening.
- Medications that dry up your mucus membranes – cold or allergy medications for example – can have an overall drying effect. If you take these routinely for allergies then ask for a different prescription that allows you to have a vibrant sex life. If you smoke cannabis recreationally, you might also notice vaginal dryness.I know that there are all these ‘vagina tightening soaps’ and douches available on the market but ladies please put them down? Harsh soaps and detergents are actually harmful. Your vagina is self-cleaning. It does not need you flushing chemicals through it to keep it clean and smelling like ‘flowers’. It smells like a vagina and your man is designed to respond to that smell. Let it be.
Finally, as mentioned in the video, remember that your clitoris is made of the same tissue as a penis. The same way a penis remains soft when its owner is anxious or unaroused is the same way a clitoris behaves.
We need to relax and unwind to mentally prepare for sex. We need foreplay from an attentive lover. A tube of water based lube on the bedside table won’t hurt and you can get it in the supermarket.