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This is What Healthy Love Looks Like

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Posted: March 25, 2020

“The ancient Greeks classified love using four ways. We do it with five words.”

The ancient Greeks classified love to define it in a more in-depth way, whether it was love between friends (philia), erotic passionate love (eros), selfless love (agape) or familial love (storge). But love in itself, in the world we live in, isn’t always healthy. It can be possessive and suffocating, manipulative, vindictive or completely misdirected in some cases. It is essential to explore what healthy love really is. We will explore using these five words.

Trust

For anyone who has ever shared a secret with someone from a young age, you know what this means. Even the leaking of a childhood secret amongst friends is enough to tear any form of relationship to shreds. Infidelity is normally quoted as one of the highest causes of divorce or break up. It’s not just about the act of sleeping with someone else. It also boils down to an individual not feeling trusted enough to share literally everything. There is no love, without trust.

Compromise

Perfection is a myth. We are all flawed human beings. Yes, the Idris Elbas and Beyonces of this world are flawed. You need to be rational in managing expectations of partners. You will not always like everything they do, say or even what they wear sometimes!

Learn to accept certain things about your partner – save for abuse, of course. Accept the things you cannot change. It could be as simple as how they squeeze the toothpaste out of the tube. Or the fact that they can’t cook. If it isn’t a deal-breaker for you, then make compromises and embrace the rest you love and care about in your partner.

You also need to be aware that as people age, they do change, so you both have to adapt to the changes and re-learn each other, and re-align what areas of compromise make sense for you both. That’s the only way long term relationships work. Do not think you will build a relationship by changing the other person. It won’t happen. Your partner is a human being, not a project.

Patience

The same kind of patience you will need for a child may also be what you need to acquire in your relationships. You are different people with different motivations and drives. Certain adaptations in your partner may take longer than usual. But you need to be willing, it if it’s worth your while, to hang in there. This is particularly true during transitions in people’s lives. It could be grief, living with a condition or losing their livelihood.

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Infidelity: https://lovemattersafrica.com/love-relationships/relationship-problems/cheating-top-five-facts

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