Turned On By Disability?
A devotee is a person who is sexually aroused and attracted to disability or body disfigurement.
Three years ago, I stumbled upon a post on one of the spinal injury support groups I am in. It was a long text by one of the group’s members, a disabled woman. She started off with a disclaimer: ‘Everyone has their own sexual preferences, that is fine, I am not here to judge anyone,’ she wrote. She then proceeded to talk about her latest relationship and how she had found out that she was dating a devotee after she found hundreds of pornography videos in his phone of actors portraying themselves as disabled women.
It was the first time I had seen or heard this word. Curious to understand its meaning so I could relate it to the story, I opened a new tab and googled the word ‘devotee’. At first, the search results didn’t yield any kind of revelation as to how a devotee related to sexuality. A more refined search was suggested by google, ‘devotee disabled’.
What was meant to be a quick search turned into two or three hours of interesting, surprising and disturbing content about a world I never knew existed. A world where disabled people are desired, wanted but also greatly objectified.
We all have a type right? Some like short women with big bums, others like dark men who are built like sticks. That’s just preference, no one really knows why we like the things we like, it just happens. But where do we draw the line between what is acceptable or not when it comes to sexual preference? Does the line exist in the first place?
Disabled or not, we all yearn for meaningful physical and emotional connections. We are built as social beings and we thrive holistically when we feel like we have individuals in our lives that want and accept us unconditionally. As disabled people, we have a greater yearning for these connections because society has already led us to believe that our bodies are not attractive or sexy. This is coupled with our own issues of low self-esteem where we always expect to face rejection.
Pornography videos: https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/porn/porn-top-five-facts