I have been dating a girl for three years. She pretended to be a virgin, made weird noises when I inserted the penis into her vagina. Was she really a virgin?
Virgin brides were highly valued in many cultures; and women went to great lengths to preserve the hymen. The surest sign or proof of virginity was (and still is), bleeding due to the breaking of the hymen. But of course, it's not an actual proof.​
​​​​​​In some ethnic groups, including certain tribes here in Kenya, a girl was never to be married a virgin. The husband could even return the inexperienced girl to acquire some 'experience'.
Who is a virgin?
Some tribes, especially in the Southern Africa region, inspected girls every year to determine if they are still virgins or not.
Whereas in other cultures, girls were not allowed to do manual work, run, stretch, or do any activity that was likely to affect the hymen; and therefore making them 'non-virgins'.
Elsewhere, tribes stitched up the vagina, leaving a very small opening for peeing and the period. Unfortunately, FGM, as this is known as, this can lead to very painful and traumatizing first time sex, and exposing women to complications during child birth.
Read more on Love Matters website
Also Read:
Hymen: https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/virginity/the-hymen-what-is-it 
FGM: https://lovemattersafrica.com/our-bodies/female-body/female-genital-cutting 

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