The feeling is quite mixed among men. The stories they have heard from other men make it either easier or harder to be by their spouse/partner's side during labor or birth. Some men want to be there as a sign of involvement and solidarity. Others find it an obligation while some given a choice would take off and wait for the phone call.
Generally, men are wired to be problem solvers. In the family, they are the providers and protectors. During labour, they feel responsible for the well-being of their spouse/partner and child and want to provide safety and protect their spouse/partner and child from harm. They find themselves in a situation they cannot control nor solve. This situation can become frustrating, and can cause fear and anxiety.
A woman in labour is emotionally very sensitive. She draws a lot of her emotional strength and stability from her spouse/partner and this helps her deal with the physical work of labour. If she notices her spouse/partners is fearful or anxious, she in turn becomes anxious and this takes a toll on labour. Though the responsibility and need to protect their family is real, men can manage to support their spouse/partner through childbirth.
Here are a few tips for you men:
Allow your spouse/partner to have the kind of birth she wants.
Be considerate, she will be the one doing the most work. Her comfort helps her manage labor better. So allow her to birth in her own way and simply support her.
The best you can do for yourself and your spouse/partner is not to be in control.
Be there and go with the flow. This way, both of you is taking one-step at a time through the process. Never mind her expressions, allow her to be expressive.
Take a childbirth preparation class.
Surprises are good but you do not want to be clueless about what happens during labour and birth. The childbirth class prepares you on what to expect, allowing you to plan for the process emotionally and physically and gain some control.
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