Should I Marry Him?
I separated from my hubby, I immediately got into another relationship. It’s been four months. My new boyfriend wants to marry me, but I feel that am not ready.
He insists that if we are not going to get married really soon then we will have to part ways, I have given him reasons why am still not ready, but he doesn’t want to listen to me, I love him so much and right now am more confused what do I do.
As a relationship starts, you should be watching for the ‘red flags’ that suggest something’s wrong. For example, a man who’s soooo nice to you – but rude to waiters. It could be you he’s rude to in six months. Or who’s secretive about his work, family, or social life. Or who drops off the radar unpredictably, for hours or even days at a time. Or tells lies.
Or someone who shows signs of abusive behaviour. Or tries to push you into marriage too fast…
Now, does that sound like your guy? He’s going far too fast. And he’s refusing to listen to your concerns. And threatening to end everything if you don’t do as he wants.
To be blunt, that suggests he may have some sort of personality disorder. No normal man rushes like that. Normal men take just as long as women to decide whether they’ve met the one. No normal man ‘insists,’ and threatens to leave like that. That’s a form of psychological abuse.
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