My husband wants to include others in our intimate sessions. I've told him I have no desire to be with another man or woman. He says it would be a real turn on to see me with someone else and him with a different woman. I don't mind sharing - except my man! It's tearing our relationship apart. I'm so confused and heartbroken. What do I do?Dear confused and heartbroken,That is a very tough proposition. It reminds of the movie 'Indecent Proposal' where a billionaire offers a married couple one million dollars. In return, the wife has to spend one night with him. After difficult discussions, the couples agree but their marriage takes a downhill spiral. Issues of mistrust and insecurities eventually lead them to divorce.This goes to show that without boundaries and principles, marriage just like any other institution, is bound to fail. It doesn't matter if the breaching of those boundaries was mutual or not.Before taking drastic measures like frog marching him for prayers to rebuke the devil out of him, or a meeting with his parents to discuss what a pervert they raised, you might want to consider the following:

• Sex within marriage is sacred. In fact, marriages can be annulled if they're not consummated through sex. This is applicable in most of Kenya, both culturally and religiously.
• Biologically, a woman in her sexual peak produces a hormone known as oxytocin, or the bonding/love hormone. This feel-good hormonemakes women bond or fall in love with a mate. Even though men don't realize it, a whiff of this potent hormone subconsciously bonds a man to a woman.

Now having said that, what would stop you or your husband falling in love with the other people introduced in the sexual acts? There's also the issue of size, especially for men. What if the other guy has a bigger penis? How will your husband react to that?Read more on Love Matters websiteAlso read:

Sex in the same position: https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/trying-new-sex-positions-dos-and-donts 

Fantasizes: https://lovemattersafrica.com/making-love/ways-to-make-love/sexual-fantasies